The self-harm Project

Trans Big Brother/Big Sister/Older Sibling Project

thai-breakfast:

Trans people are estimated to be ~0.3% of the world population. That can make it hard to find other Trans people where you live. I’m interested in starting a Trans community project here on tumblr and need some help getting it started.

I don’t know if it has been done before, but I would like to coordinate a Trans big brother/big sister/older sibling program. Many Trans people tend to be on a lone wolf journey in their transition simply because there aren’t other Trans people around to help guide them.

The idea I have is that this can be a project that brings together older, and more experienced Trans people who are further along in their transition with younger Trans people or Trans people who are just starting out their transition. In this way the big sibling can be there for advice, transition help, and to be a supporting older sibling that many of us Trans people don’t have by blood (I know my older sibling isn’t supportive).

As a community, too, I would love to feel more like a family. To feel like you have even one person supporting you, somewhere, can make a world of a difference in someone’s life.

When signing up, you would be able to choose to be a big sibling or a younger sibling, and who (identity wise) you would like to be paired with (an mtf, an ftm, someone Trans non binary, someone Trans feminine, ect). This way we can find someone who is best suited for your needs and siblinghood.

Would anyone be interested coordinating something like this with me? How about signing up for something like this? How many people are interested in the concept in general? I know personally I would want to adopt a trans younger brother and trans younger sister. Let me know your thoughts and if you are interested!

*I want this to be run by Trans people and made for Trans people, but feel free to signal boost if you’re cis.

Recovery isn't a choice, it is multiple choices. Recovery is a choice you have to make over and over again throughout a day, or even an hour. However, the more often you chose recovery, the easier it will get with time.

makesme-thatmuchstronger:

Words from my therapist that I’ll never forget

Reblog if your blog is safe for people of all genders and sexualities

writing-promts:

For anyone of you guys that are struggling, remember that there is hope and it does get better.

Five years ago I was living in an abusive household, was suicidal, and couldn’t see how life could get better.
Now, Im graduating, have a loving boyfriend, and have more self confidence and joy than ever before. Im just one out of many examples of how life can drastically change for the better.

Hold on, it does get better.

groovian-whovian:

spinningrims:

i’m seeing a lot of people reblogging suicide hotlines and this is just a reminder that this is a suicide help line that works like a text-based instant messenger for people who may need to talk to someone but have trouble/are uncomfortable making phone calls

Never don’t reblog this.
There are so many people who have such bad anxiety about phone calls.
This can save so many lives

henryfoss:

Hey, I’m feeling fucked up because of the Orlando shooting and making posts that Might Be Helpful to others makes me feel better. So here’s some positive stuff. I’m mostly linking to masterposts. If you have any suggestions for additions, please message me and I’ll add things. This is a hard time for LGBT people and I hope everyone can feel well soon.

• Happy LGBT Movie Recommendations 
  
• LGBT 8track playlists 
  
• Comfort Food Recipes 
  
• Mind-Numbing, Distracting Activities 
  
• LGBT Book Recommendations 
  
• LGBTWebcomics
  
• QueerGraffiti
  
• I’m From Driftwood, The LGBTQ Story Archive 
  

I also realize that this can be a really hard time for a lot of people. Here are some LGBT friendly hotlines:

• (For ages 13-24) The Trevor Project: 1-866-4-U-TREVOR or online at www.thetrevorproject.com
  
• THE GLBT National Help Center
  
• Hotline: 1-888-THE-GLNH
• Youth Talkline:  1-800-246-PRIDE
• GLCCB has a good masterpost, but some of them are not national, so pay attention to locality
  

Additionally, here’s a list of 146 things you can do instead of self-harming, because I know that things like this can be extremely upsetting.

Stay safe everyone!

scullysgf:

and like my heart is just broken over all the young lgbt kids who woke up to this today

like, its already had a horrible effect on me, but if it had happened when i was 15? it would have been 10x worse

your life is worth living. i know how scary it is to live in a world where people want you dead but you are stronger and braver than that. i love you. i promise, you can make it.

fr4nike:

maddwood:

I’m tired

I’m gay. I’m tired.

I texted one of my best friends this morning and asked, “Did you hear about Orlando?” because the first time I ever went to a gay club and pretended like I was “out” was with him when we were fresh out of high school. Out of all my friends, he’s probably spent the most time in gay clubs. Which means I’m more worried about him than about my other friends. So I texted him.

I’m tired.

They want people to give blood, but it’s gay people who need the blood and it’s gay people who can’t donate. But we’re in crisis mode! We’ll take your tainted gay blood for today only!

I’m tired.

I held hands with a man last week and thought, “Oh no, we’re in a small town in Utah and this is dangerous because we’re both gay,” before I remembered that he’s a guy and I’m a girl so no, it’s not dangerous. But the next time I hold hands with a girl, will someone see us and get mad enough to shoot 50 gay people? Will I feel responsible when I read the news? Will I feel like a danger to society for being gay?

I’m tired.

I went to Pride in Salt Lake City last weekend and I complained as I stood in line in the hot sun and I complained about the ticket prices and I complained about the festival being smaller than it was last year and I complained. When it was over, I was still alive. I’m still alive. I can’t believe I complained.

I’m tired.

Bury your gays. Currently on television, 4 percent of characters identify as LGBT. In 2016, about 40 percent of that 4 percent have already died. Yesterday, that might’ve been the issue I wanted to discuss. Yesterday, I might’ve been angry about fictional gays dying. Yesterday. Art imitates life, life imitates art, and I am tired.

I’m tired.

A year ago I put a rainbow flag around my shoulders and celebrated the legalization of gay marriage in the United States. A year ago there was no law banning transgender people from using the bathroom of their choosing. A year ago a man hadn’t shot 50 gay people dead because he saw two men kissing and got angry. “Now that gay marriage is legal, what more do you people want?” Well, I want to stay alive, for one thing.

I’m tired.

There aren’t gay coffee shops or gay restaurants – there are gay nightclubs. Gay nightclubs where LGBT people can meet other LGBT people and feel safe. I want to meet other LGBT people and make friends with LGBT people, but I also don’t want to die.

I’m tired.

My existence is controversial. Even though I’m out, I have to be careful about how “gay” I “act.” What happens if I’m at work and offend a customer? What happens if someone I know reads these words and decides to punish me for them? What happens if someone gets so angry about my sexuality that they shoot 50 people?

I’m gay. I’m tired.

#WeAreTired