can i just say, i want to make a shoutout to lgbt kids who live in homophobic homes right now. who can’t show their grief and terror, who have to keep their anger and outrage hidden; who may even have to agree with homophobic and racist family members to keep themselves safe right now. you are loved. i love you. i understand. your beliefs aren’t tainted.
even if it’s hard to see from where you are, even if it’s hard to see it in the face of this tragedy, there are people who will welcome you and accept you. there will always be sadness, suffering, and death connected to being lgbt. i don’t know if that will ever disappear. but please believe me when i tell you that you can find happiness. you will live and you will find love.
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Posted 523 weeks ago
Borderline Awareness month
Be proud of yourself everytime your loved one wants to do something on their own, and you just let them. Be proud of yourself everytime when it takes longer than 15 minutes to get a reply but you just stay calm. Be proud of yourself when you accept it when your loved one hangs out with their friends. Be proud of yourself everytime you didn’t say mean things to your loved one, even though it was really hard. Be proud of yourself when you didn’t hurt yourself after or during a argument with your loved one. Be proud of yourself when the first thing you did when you woke up, was not sending a message to your loved one, but first took care of yourself and did your own things. Be proud of yourself when you’re able to hang out with other people instead of your loved one, even though you miss them. Be proud when you accept it when your loved one isn’t really in the mood for hugs or kisses, and you don’t make a problem of it. Be proud of yourself when you open up to someone. Be proud of yourself when you let someone in. Be proud of yourself if you change the ‘borderline routine’. Be proud of yourself when you looked in the mirrow today, even when it makes you want to kill yourself or not. Be proud when you made yourself come out of the disociating. Be proud of yourself when you won from borderline.
I am proud of everyone who suffers from BPD. Diagnosed, or self-diagnosed. Don’t give up. We deserve to have a awareness month! Stay Strong & I love you all <3
Posted 525 weeks ago
You say eating disorders aren't a choice but everyone who chooses to recover chooses to eat again instead of choosing to starve. Sounds like a choice to me. I can choose to be anorexic as much as someone can choose to recover and not be anorexic anymore.
That’s because it is a choice to recover; hence why forcing people to recover is generally ineffective in the long run, because sufferers need that motivation and desire to get better for themselves in order for them to stick at the hellish process of recovery. I am not saying that there is not a degree of “choice” - for want of a better word - in terms of an eating disorder sufferer’s decision to recover or to continue to engage with their eating disorder - although that simplifies things a LOT, and remaining sick does not usually feel like a choice so much as getting better often feels like an impossibility; I do not want to make the decision to recover appear as black-and-white as you have anon, because it is no way near as simple as that, and implying that sufferers can simply “choose” to get better - just like that - is only going to result in the perpetuation of harmful stigma. If a cancer sufferer decides to fight back against the disease that is destroying them, rather than simply sit back quietly and let it kill them, does that mean that they chose to suffer from cancer? You seem to have misinterpreted the statement “anorexia is not a choice”; this is related to the development of the illness, not the decision to attempt recovery. Certainly, sufferers have a degree of control in their ability to try and get better - whether they are aware of this or not - but no eating disorder sufferer chooses to get sick in the first place. Continuing to engage in disordered behaviours which are fuelled by a disease which provides a twisted sense of safety; clinging desperately to the only coping mechanism you have, regardless of how self-destructive - that is absolutely not the same as “choosing” to develop an eating disorder in the first place. So yes, if you are suffering from anorexia anon, you may well “choose” to continue to “starve” rather than choosing to attempt recovery - but that does not mean that the fact you got sick in the first place was a choice; because it wasn’t.
People don’t choose to develop life-threatening diseases, but deciding to stand up to the illness that crashed, uninvited, into your life, deciding to fight to retrieve your life from the grips of anorexia - that is a choice. And choosing to eat I’d not equivalent to “choosing not to be anorexic anymore”. Anorexia is a mental illness, and eating disorder sufferers generally continue battle the internal torment of the disease despite the fact that they are eating. Eating disorders are not about food, or the decision to starve or nor starve. Simply choosing not to eat does not automatically mean that you are suffering from anorexia. And let’s not imply that there is any shame or weakness in an eating disorder sufferer’s decision to adequately nourish their body - I sense a hint of that tone conveyed in your message - because making that choice to stand up to your eating disorder, and do the exact opposite of what it demands whilst enduring its constant beration and abuse is one of the bravest things anyone can do, and I assure you that it takes far more strength than simply not eating ever will.
I suggest you educate yourself on the topic of eating disorders anon, and in the meantime please try to refrain from simplifying and minimising such a serious disease - especially when your ignorant messages are directed at someone who is currently in the early stages of recovering from anorexia herself. A little respect wouldn’t go amiss.
Posted 526 weeks ago
Posted 526 weeks ago
Reblog if you're a Safety Blog
Reblog this and other people will know they can come to you if they’re feeling bad and they won’t be judged for it
Posted 537 weeks ago
IT IS 100% YOUR RIGHT TO LEAVE ANY RELATIONSHIP THAT IS TOXIC OR ABUSIVE!!!
slightlyaggressiveaffirmations:
IT DOESN’T MATTER WHAT KIND OF RELATIONSHIP IT IS!!! IT IS ALWAYS YOUR RIGHT TO BE HAPPY AND SAFE!!!
always remember this
Posted 537 weeks ago
“I’ve never been to war. I can’t have PTSD.” Yes, you can.
“I’m not suicidal. I can’t have depression.” Yes, you can.
“He’s never hit me. It can’t be abuse.” Yes, it can.
Suffering is not a contest. Your experiences are valid. Seek out the help you need.
SUFFERING IS NOT A CONTEST
SUFFERING IS NOT A CONTEST
Posted 537 weeks ago
Posted 537 weeks ago
Finding yourself is a painful journey, but the scars will heal.
Posted 539 weeks ago
Posted 549 weeks ago
Please don’t kill yourself.
Take this as a signal that someone out there wants you to think about this drastic decision, halt for another day.
Push that to a week, a month, a year, your life.
This world is missing out on someone, missing out on YOU.
Show the world what they’re missing.Killing yourself is not an option, you need to fight, you need to win, and I’m sure you can. Any moment, any help needed, my ask is always open here, shoot me a mail. I love you, you deserve much more. Killing yourself will be a signal to your opponent, that you gave in, you succumbed to circumstances, but I know you, you’re a fighter, you’re strong.
Start afresh, you will pass by this thought too. Killing is for cowards, I know you’re not.
I love you from the bottom of my heart.
- Ana x.
(Please don’t delete the text, people must read this, it may just help)WOW. I was just thinking about starting my suicide note…
Posted 549 weeks ago
