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A lot of people don’t realize how painful it is to be mis-gendered when you’re a trans-man (or trans-woman.) You put all of this effort into being the man that you are, and appearing as a man to everyone else. SO much effort goes into “passing” and it is a real set back when you get mis-gendered. Each “miss” “she” “her” and “mam” are…
You are making progress in a spiral. You do come back around to where you were at the start, since recovery and healing take time, but every time you come back around to that point you’re a little higher up because you’ve got more experience, more knowledge, and more strength.
Equality Golbat: “If you are cisgender, tell people what your pronouns are.”
How to ally: Don’t assume that your pronouns are “obvious” or wait for somebody to ask you about them. Pronouns are invisible and are therefore never obvious. Hatred of trans people, nonbinary people, singular they and neopronouns is propped up by the normativity of cisgender and cis pronoun use. By talking about pronouns more often, you force other cis people to think about pronouns and lose their “default” status.
Instead of making baseless assumptions, just ask. Normalize that.
–Nidoqueen
Posted 601 weeks ago
There are
so many fragile things,
after all.
People break so easily,
and so do hearts and dreams.
