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The Self-Harm Project

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Recovery Resources for EDNOS/OSFED

otherwisenotspecified:

This page is meant to detail a list of recovery resources for a lesser known but common eating disorder, Eating Disorder Otherwise Not Specified AKA Otherwise Specified Feeding or Eating Disorder. (I call it by both names because many people are unaware of the name change from the DSM-IV to the DSMV). To learn about what the disorder is, you can check out my page about that here.

Articles about EDNOS/OSFED (for research and explaining your disorder to others)


Atypical Anorexia Nervosa / Avoidant Food Restrictive Intake Disorder

Note: Many articles here are titled “Almost Anorexic” because the search “Atypical Anorexia” did not yield nearly as many results. This is not meant to say that Atypical Anorexia is not a serious eating disorder simply because it is not anorexia.


Orthorexia


Subthreshold Bulimia Nervosa / Purging Disorder / Diabulimia


Subthreshold Binge Eating Disorder


PICA


  • EDNOS/OSFED Personal / Recovery Stories (and other eating disorder recovery stories) 


Recovery Resources on the Web and Hotlines (I included resources for different eating disoders as parts of OSFED/EDNOS tend to relate to other eating disorders)



Recovery Books and Workbooks


Recovery and Positivity Blogs on Tumblr​ / Anti Pro Ana Blogs (If you know of a blog that I should add to this list, message me. I’m sure i missed people.)


And… that’s it for now, I guess. I may update this over time if I find more information. 

I hope this helps some people. OSFED/EDNOS is a completely valid eating disorder. Please feel free to send me a message any time you need to talk to someone about this stuff. You are worthy of recovery; you are loved. 

Posted 599 weeks ago

Nearly everyone with ADHD answers an emphatic yes to the question: “Have you always been more sensitive than others to rejection, teasing, criticism, or your own perception that you have failed or fallen short?” This is the definition of a condition called rejection-sensitive dysphoria. When I ask ADHDers to elaborate on it, they say: “I’m always tense. I can never relax. I can’t just sit there and watch a TV program with the rest of the family. I can’t turn my brain and body off to go to sleep at night. Because I’m sensitive to my perception that other people disapprove of me, I am fearful in personal interactions.” They are describing the inner experience of being hyperactive or hyper-aroused. Remember that most kids after age 14 don’t show much overt hyperactivity, but it’s still present internally, if you ask them about it.

The emotional response to the perception of failure is catastrophic for those with the condition. The term “dysphoria” means “difficult to bear,” and most people with ADHD report that they “can hardly stand it.” They are not wimps; disapproval hurts them much more than it hurts neurotypical people.

If emotional pain is internalized, a person may experience depression and loss of self-esteem in the short term. If emotions are externalized, pain can be expressed as rage at the person or situation that wounded them.

In the long term, there are two personality outcomes. The person with ADHD becomes a people pleaser, always making sure that friends, acquaintances, and family approve of him. After years of constant vigilance, the ADHD person becomes a chameleon who has lost track of what she wants for her own life. Others find that the pain of failure is so bad that they refuse to try anything unless they are assured of a quick, easy, and complete success. Taking a chance is too big an emotional risk. Their lives remain stunted and limited.

For many years, rejection-sensitive dysphoria has been the hallmark of what has been called atypical depression. The reason that it was not called “typical” depression is that it is not depression at all but the ADHD nervous system’s instantaneous response to the trigger of rejection.

“Devastated by Disapproval” - William Dodson, M.D., ADDitude Magazine (via alchemy)
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the365daysblog:

This was asked to me just a while ago and since it wasn’t on anon, I responded to the person privately, but I’d love to share their ask and my response on here just to give other people who’s been suffering the same a heads up and at the same time keep the person’s identity private. :)

ASK: How can i start to pick up the pieces after a abusive relationship that ended 2 years ago which i didnt even end i though by trying to date other people was the answer but im still hurting, scared and afraid. How can i move foward?

ANSWER:

Leaving an abusive relationship can be one of the hardest things a person does. But even after your ex is out of your life, sometimes the emotional and mental effects from experiencing abuse can linger on. You may experience feelings of depression, guilt, anger, loss and even symptoms of posttraumatic stress disorder:

  • Anxiety
  • Trouble sleeping
  • Being easily frightened or scared
  • Avoiding of stressful triggers that remind you of abuse
  • Difficulty maintaining relationships
  • Feeling emotionally numb

There is no one way to feel or heal after you leave an abusive relationship.

It may be hard to stop thinking about your old relationship. You may still think about the little comments that your ex said to break you down, make you feel worthless or to make you think that you didn’t deserve better. (Your ex was wrong by the way). You may even think about the nice things that they said and the good times that you had with them.

Being in an abusive relationship, or leaving and getting back together more than once (which is very common) can hurt your self-esteem and make you doubt yourself. If you’re feeling bad, you may even question your decision to leave in the first place. The important thing to remember is that you did leave and that took a lot of strength. Now it is time to channel your courage into healing and getting back to being a happy and healthy you.

The first step toward recovering from any type of traumatic experience is re-establishing your sense of safety. This means feeling confident that your ex won’t harm you anymore (whether that’s by cutting off contact, getting a protective order or even moving) and beginning to find stability in everyday life. Stability looks different for different people. Sometimes it’s just getting back into your school routine again. If you’re older, it can mean finding a steady job and feeling financially secure.

Second, give yourself some time to grieve. It’s normal to feel sad or angry for a while. It’s important to let yourself experience those feelings and to let them out, rather than bottling them up. There are lots of healthy ways you can do this — journaling, writing poetry or songs, creating art, exercising or dancing. In addition to being expressive, all of these activities can slowly help to restore your sense of power over your own life. They can remind you of your strengths and the beautiful things you are capable of creating.

Finally, you reconnect with ordinary life. It can be difficult to remember what life was like before an abusive relationship. You may feel emotionally closed off, and it can be hard to trust people again. Your ex-partner may have even physically isolated you from your friends and family, and you feel you have no one to turn to or that nobody could understand what you have been through.

You Deserve to Feel Great

Although it may difficult, this is the time that you need to focus on you and your own happiness. You never did anything to cause this and you deserve to be happy and feel safe.

What you went through is not who you are.

Healing is a process and through it, you will remember how strong, capable and extraordinary you really are. You will have good and bad times, but every day free from abuse is another piece of yourself that you get back and, eventually, those pieces will come together.

Tips

  • You need to explore what weakness inside yourself made you vulnerable to this person’s manipulation, so it doesn’t happen again with others.
  • Find the inner child that you were, explore if s/he was abused and do things to repair her: recover her dreams, pleasures and find ways of connecting again with everything that gave her joy.
  • You need to educate yourself about relationship abuse and its impact.
  • You may want to go to counseling or see a professional to get good help.

Warnings

  • Do not under any circumstances go back to the abusive person you were in the relationship with!
  • Be aware of your emotional needs that could push you into unhealthy relationships, “only to be with someone”

Things You’ll Need

  • One or two good friends in your life, who can reflect back to you the wonderful person you were before the abuse. Find them and listen to them!
  • A structured life routine where you know what you are doing, and why; so you don’t need to put up with abuse because you have other important things in your life to go to.
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sin-and-fight:

Untitled on We Heart It - http://weheartit.com/entry/166856845

Posted 599 weeks ago

Relapse

punkrocktrichster:

Relapse does not erase all of the progress you have made already.

Relapse is merely a little bump, or a pause button, not a downgrade, as much as it might feel that way.

Recovery is a journey, not a destination, with obstacles, like changes in hormone levels, stressful days and weeks, or poor mental health and burnout. 

You are still so strong and still so worthy of love from yourself and others!

Things get worse before they get better.

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We are not our disorders.
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Reminder

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trichsterjournal:

15/03/2015, 11:23am.

I almost pulled. I was one second away from pulling. I’m so upset.

You ehere one second away, but you didn’t, and I am proud of you!

Posted 599 weeks ago

Addiction has many faces. Trichotillomania is one.

thekatscorner:

We often forget that addiction has many faces. It isn’t just drugs, cigarettes, and alcohol. Addiction can be found in feelings, people, hair pulling, skin cutting, tattooing, sounds, words, the list goes on infinitely.  Addiction is trillions of different cages, every person trapped in at least one, while others trapped in many. If you are reading this right now, you are in one of these cages.…

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